7 Words That Will Change Our Marriages

Posted: October 18, 2015 in GOD, Jesus Christ, Love

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We spend billions each year on our appearance. Gym memberships, dieting programs that may or may not work, new clothes and more. Don’t get me wrong, we should care how we look. But, what do our marriages look like? More importantly, where does our marital health rank on the list of To-Do’s? Instead of our bodies and physical appearance being top priorities, what if we put that focus on our marriages instead?

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The hardest part of parenting, that no one seems to want to warn you about, is the strain children have on your marriage. Children can come between you and your spouse. For us, it’s quite literal. I can’t seem to hug my wife without my 4-year-old butting in between us to make a “sandwich.”

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As the years go by, the children naturally become our focus, making it easy to lose sight of each other. We don’t take the time or energy necessary to stay connected.

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But, this trend can be stopped if you give your marriage a “check up.” I believe there are seven words that, if applied to our marriages, have the power to make this year the best year we have ever experienced as a couple.

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1. Initiate. Remember the courtship? Make an effort to woo your spouse all over again. So many marriages fall apart because people just stop trying.
“Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it” (Proverbs 3:27).

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2. Prioritize. What is your top priority? It’s where you devote the majority of your time or energy. Turn off the television and put down your iPhone. Your email and updating your Facebook status can wait.
“Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3).

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3. Communicate. In a successful marriage, you have to fight the urge to sweep things under the rug. Don’t allow things to fester. Instead, keep an open line of communication. When we have“sounding boards” who aren’t our spouses, sure, we might feel a little better, but we are doing nothing to actually resolve situations or improve our relationship.
“From a wise mind comes careful and persuasive speech” (Proverbs 16:23).

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4. Listen. The most important part of communicating doesn’t involve speaking; it’s listening. Your spouse wants to be heard. How can you know what he or she is feeling if you don’t take the time to listen. All too often, many of us are too quick to interject before the person is even finished speaking.
“…let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger” (James 1:19).

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5. Forgive. Don’t hold onto things. You only harm yourself. When your spouse does something, refer to #3 and #4. Then, let it go. Forgive them and move on.
“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts … and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (Colossians 3:12-13).

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6. Love. Without love, there is no marriage. And, that’s why we must keep the spark alive. This year, set aside more time to date your spouse. And, when you are out, try your best to make sure the kids or grandkids aren’t the primary topic of conversation.
“And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony” (Colossians 3:14).

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7. Pray. It has been said that a successful marriage consists of three people: husband, wife and God. Involve Him more, even in the so-called “little things.”
“Seek the Lord and his strength; seek his presence continually!” (I Chronicles 16:11)
Let’s resolve together to focus on our relationships more than ourselves this year, and watch how God will bless the efforts.
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Comments
  1. JV Waters says:

    The Bible NEVER said the women does not provide or work. Women worked and provided just as much as the man. It takes TWO, NOT one to make it in this world, especially now!

    • I don’t follow your comment….WHERE does it say that in the article? “The Bible NEVER said the women does not provide or work.”

      This article is about bringing people together. A family…GOD’S union, a man and a woman…closer to one another. But, it’s no surprise that the world has come to your description…Satan does his best to pull families apart in any way he can!

      • JV Waters says:

        Actually yes, in one of the photo plaques it states this, second from the top. It intentionally makes it known specifically. This is also the feminism/liberal/witchcraft new age movement being pushed in the church and misusing the Bible and taking it out of context directly. This has been going on for over 6 thousand years, about how long mankind has been on this earth. Women have gotten away with way too much, and this is also why the Bible says they have become the weaker vessel. God did not create them that way, but the demonic/Lilith system has conditioned them this way. This is why I left the common church 12 years ago, and why many men will REFUSE to even date until they meet a REAL Christian woman, which are few in the world. This is because it is a FACT less than 1 percent really know what real love is, even in the common church. The evidence is absolutely overwhelming. Until this corruption/deception/chaos connected even to the LGBT/communism beliefs is exposed and dealt with, nothing is going to change much either. And more innocent good Christian males will continue to be shunned victims from it. This is also a big reason why the divorces are bigger in American than in ANY other country in the entire world! And you wonder why! I am not going to debate this. I am not coming back to this article. It is FYI.

      • You are 100% correct. The agenda which includes the women’s right issues is demonic! I cannot argue with that at all. 🙂 I appreciate your cander and it’s not a secret that women don’t know their place in this world. Peace & Blessings-V

      • JV Waters says:

        This is really good. All people should listen to this, and hear how the Godly traditional marriage is even attacked by going after males via the feminism movement, part of the new age cult witchcraft going on even today. I have been exposing this since I was a teenager! Watch the video below if you have not already. This cannot even be denied.

        Ernie

      • Wow…the sanctity of marriage is perfect, and this is why Satan attacks it. This was a very sad video, sad indeed. Thank you for posting. It’s needed. Truth is inspiring, it is guarded by GOD, and will triumph over all opposition! GOD bless. Love, V

  2. Glen Harmer says:

    Hi Virginia, this was a great message on Marriage. Thanks and blessings to you Sister!

  3. Kittii says:

    This is unbelievable. What’s new?

  4. Kittii says:

    Rabbi Levin describes how Mrs Friedman absconded with her baby, received immediate strong support to “run out the clock” staying in Philadelphia , demonstrating what the secular court itself referred to as “spite ” against the husband /father to the detriment of the child. If you were in the situation where your wife clearly demonstrates from the get go that she is going to marginalize your relationship with your child & the rabbis dont help you at all ,but [you feel ]they only help the side with the $ ,would you just roll over ,surrender your fatherhood & give the Get?

  5. Kittii says:

    Two rabbis face kidnapping charges after allegedly arranging assaults of Orthodox Jewish husbands to persuade them to grant divorces to their wives, authorities said Thursday.

    FBI raids on Wednesday night led to the arrest of the men, who were arraigned in federal court in New Jersey on Thursday, according to court documents.

    A criminal complaint alleges that the rabbis charged Jewish wives tens of thousands of dollars to orchestrate kidnappings and accepted $20,000 for such an operation from undercover FBI agents.

    Their goal? To obtain “gets,” a document that Jewish law requires a husband to present to his wife in order to be issued a divorce, the complaint says.

    In the Orthodox Jewish world, a get is more important than any sort of document drawn up in civil courts. The derivation of this law is found in Deuteronomy 24:1-2:

    “When a man marries a woman or possesses her, if she is displeasing to him…, he shall write her a bill of divorce and place it in her hand, thus releasing her from his household. When she thus leaves his household, she may go and marry another man.”

    Without it, a woman is considered an “agunah” – a chained woman bound to a man no matter how over their marriage might be. The implications of not having a get are serious. A woman runs the risk of being shunned in her community, labeled an adulteress if she dares move on. And any future children she has are considered bastards only permitted to marry other bastards.

    In one conversation with undercover FBI agents, the complaint alleges, Rabbi Mendel Epstein talked about forcing the divorces with the help of hired “tough guys,” who he said used plastic bags to cover the husbands’ heads and electric cattle prods and karate to assault them.

    “I guarantee you that if you’re in the van, you’d give a get to your wife. You probably love your wife, but you’d give a get when they finish with you,” Epstein told the undercover FBI agents, according to the complaint.

    The complaint says Epstein told the undercover FBI agents that his organization had kidnapped a husband every 12 to 18 months.

    Another rabbi, Martin Wolmark, told the agents, “You need special rabbis who are going to take this thing and see it through to the end,” according to the complaint.

    Husbands who withhold gets have been held in contempt for centuries. How to deal with them has long been a subject of debate. Names of recalcitrant husbands are often listed in Orthodox Jewish newspapers to shame them. But more extreme measures have also been supported in the past. A leading 12th century Jewish philosopher, Moses Maimonides, actually advocated that these men be whipped until they issued gets or died, whichever came first.

    In Israel, where state and Jewish laws blend, such husbands can be thrown in prison. In the United States, where church and state separation reigns, the justice system offers little help.

    Epstein, Wolmark and eight others face kidnapping charges in the case, according to court documents. They are being held without bond pending a bail hearing next week, the U.S. District Court for New Jersey said.

    All 10 defendants pleaded not guilty Thursday, said attorney Marc Agnifilo, who is representing Wolmark. If convicted, he said, they face a maximum sentence of life in prison.

    “Martin is greatly loved in his community and by his family. … Hopefully he will be released so he can defend these charges as a free man,” Agnifilo said.

    Avraham Moskowitz, Epstein’s attorney, stressed the importance of the issue the case deals with.

    “The only thing I can say is, as is true in all cases, there are two sides to every story. The case deals with a very serious problem in the Orthodox Jewish community, and we will present a defense when the time is appropriate.”

    He said the rabbi’s family is doing well.

    “They’re doing as good as can be expected under the circumstances. It’s obviously a difficult situation when your father or husband is incarcerated,” he said.

    The names of attorneys representing the others charged in the case were not listed in court documents. CNN was unable to reach them for comment.

    The FBI said agents raided two locations Wednesday night, a home in Brooklyn and the Yeshiva Shaarei Torah in Suffern, New York.

  6. Kittii says:

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herbivore_men

    Herbivore men (草食(系)男子 Sōshoku(-kei) danshi?)[1] or grass eaters[2] is a term used in Japan to describe men who have no interest in getting married or finding a girlfriend.[3] The term was first coined by author Maki Fukasawa in an article published on October 13, 2006.[4][5][6][7]

    Surveys of single Japanese men conducted in 2010 found that 61% of men in their 20s and 70% of men in their 30s considered themselves to be herbivores.[8] Japan’s government views the phenomenon as one possible cause of the nation’s declining birth rate.[9]

    According to Fukasawa, herbivore men are “not without romantic relationships, but have a non-assertive, indifferent attitude toward desires of flesh”. The philosopher Masahiro Morioka defines herbivore men as men who are “the nice guys of a new generation who do not aggressively seek meat, but instead prefer to eat grass side by side with the opposite gender.”[

  7. Kittii says:

    Baby Drain – In Japan, the birth rate is decreasing at such a rate that many believe the whole race risk being extinct, or at least face a national crisis.

    For downloads and more information visit:
    http://www.journeyman.tv/?lid=65178

    With a plummeting birth rate and a rapidly ageing population, Japan is facing an unprecedented population collapse with vast economic, social and political implications. We explore the dangers facing the nation.

    In bustling Tokyo, there’s little sense of an impending crisis, but Japan is facing a demographic time bomb. “Nobody is having babies. The men aren’t as hungry for success or for relationships as they were before”, says Kaoru Arai. She epitomizes the country’s new breed of successful and financially independent women that are putting their career first. “I’m picky, yes. I want it all”, she smiles. In a desperate move to pull the birth rate back from the brink, the government is offering cash incentives to encourage singles to partner up and procreate. Meanwhile, the elderly are being left behind, with no one to look after them. Japan’s seemingly xenophobic reluctance to admit foreign workers means that major companies are now racing to develop robots to help fill the void and support its ageing population. Somewhat desperate measures, which reveal how difficult the problem has become for the government to handle. “This situation cannot continue, we know this very well, but it is still not something that is easily solved.”

  8. Kittii says:

    That video JW Waters posted led me to this video. This video led me to the one’s about Japan.

  9. Kittii says:

    I caught 1 hours of the CNN seventies on TV the other night. There’s absolutely nothing to watch on TV anymore. This is the sixties.

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